Over-55s think their age prevents them making the most of life

Aug 06

A survey on behalf of Camelot, the UK’s national lottery operator, revealed that many over 55s believe their age prevents them from making the most of their lives and that more than half of all adult Britons feel too stressed to take on new challenges.

What an unnecessary waste of time, talent, creativity – and opportunities.

It’s a trap that’s all too easy to fall into though, and not just relating to age (too old, or too young). People tell themselves they’re too weighed down with money worries, family responsibilities, stress at work …. you name it —-  to have fun, indulge in hobbies they’re passionate about, keep up with friends or exercise – and, abracadabra, kalamazoo –  their wish is granted! The weight on their shoulders gets heavier and heavier and life gets duller, darker and more constricted, just as they asked.

We all do it. But we can change.

I have no idea who first said it, but whenever I start thinking negatively, this definition pops in my head:

Worry is a prayer for what you DON’T want

It’s usually enough to stop me in my tracks and turn the thought inside out. So,

“I can’t bear the thought of going to work today; I have far too much to do, the boss has it in for me and it’s going to be a long, miserable, stressful day…..”   becomes

“I’m going to have a really productive, satisfying day. I’ll easily complete my ‘to do’ list and all my relationships are cordial and effective.” 

Whilst saying this I visualise myself at the office, happy and relaxed and see myself achieving everything I need to without undue effort or stress and, yes, nine times out of ten that’s enough to change the outcome of my day.

Sometimes, though, I can feel a deeper resistance. It’s almost as though I WANT my day to work out badly. I’m self-sabotaging, for whatever reason, and that’s where I need to bring in EFT.

 

Set up statement

I’ll start tapping on the Karate chop point saying something like “even though I don’t want to have a good day …..even though I’m setting myself up for a bad day ….even though I want to punish myself by giving myself a rotten day at work …..I deeply and completely accept myself and these feelings.”

The negative round

Then I’ll tap on the points: inside the eyebrow, outside eyebrow, under the eye, under the nose, chin, collar bone, under the arm, top of the head with accompanying statements such as: work’s going to be awful today …. I’m going to make sure it is ….I don’t deserve to have a good day at work …. what’s the point in me enjoying my job? ….I’m rubbish at it ….after all, having a bad day will give me an excuse to feel sorry for myself ….. choosing to hate work must be serving me in some way …. I wonder why I want to make myself miserable?”

The possibilities round

If something pops into my head to answer that last question, I’ll tap on that. It’s most effective if a specific event at work comes up because then I can collapse it and test if I have any remaining bad feeling about the day to deal with. But if I don’t get anything specific, I’ll tap for the possibility that the day will go well: “even though I don’t feel good about today, I’m open to the possibility that things could go better than I expect,” and mention any specifics that come to mind such as, “my boss could be pleased with my report ….why shouldn’t he be? …..I did a good job….no I didn’t …..yes, I did …..I certainly did my best …..it’s his job to recommend changes if necessary …..we both want the best outcome and I can accept constructive criticism.”

The positive round

Set up: “Even though I’ve had some doubts about my performance, I deeply and completely accept myself and my determination to do a good job ……even though I’ve been worried how today might turn out, I know I’ve done the best job I can and I’m proud of the work I’ve put in …..even though I’m anxious for my boss’s approval, I know some changes might be necessary and I deeply and completely accept that this is not a reflection on me or my abilities.”

Round: “It’s going to be a really good day ……I know I’ve done a great job ….. I’m part of a team and we’re all on the same side …. it will be great if we can make the report even better …. it’s darned good already …. my boss will do his best to support me … he respects me and I respect myself ….. I can’t wait to get to work, it’s going to be a really good day!”

It sounds a lot when it’s written down like this, but it only takes a minute or two, and you can easily do it while you’re in the shower, cleaning your teeth or eating breakfast. In the car or while walking’s another good opportunity (and if it’s awkward to actually do the tapping, imagine it, or tap on just one point such as the collar bone – EFT is incredibly forgiving like that).

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Stay positive. Stay open to life’s opportunities. You’re never too old (or too young)!

Heather